Although it seemed impossible when we were kids, our parents and other elders do age. 

Which means that one day you may be stepping in to help them with organizing their affairs, attending doctor visits (via telehealth if they don't live nearby), making decisions of all kinds, and maybe even finding them a place to live for their last years.

It can be quite a burden. 

Sure, you do it willingly – after all, these are the people who gave you your start in life. (And, to be certain, there may be days or circumstances you don't do it willingly. That's okay, too.) But it can mean crash courses in topics you're not at all familiar with.

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I provide guidance, information, resources, and support for:

Sorting out your parent’s needs.

Getting you both set up so you can focus on your future together instead of playing catch-up.

Whether you’re living in the same area as your parent, or dealing with this remotely, understanding what you're up against can help both of you immensely.

Gathering resources for the care your parent needs.

Gathering resources for your needs!

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These difficult subjects can be made much easier with my compassionate, experienced help. Your curiosity is where it starts. Please get in touch with your questions so we can decide whether we're a good fit to work together - now or in the future.

Whether you want to meet in person on the south Oregon coast, or via phone / Zoom / FaceTime throughout the rest of Oregon, I look forward to connecting with you to explore the options.

~ Marcella

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Examples of specific services for you and your parents:

{Please check back as I continue to think through the work I've done and add to this list.}

While they're healthy
• Consider ways to approach your parent(s) about getting their affairs in order.
• Address a parent's reluctance to talk about these subjects.
• Identify useful documents.
• Prepare yourself to talk about your parent's personal information
• Gather lists of important people and organizations in your parent’s life so you can do all this at a distance, if needed, or while you continue to live your own life.

From diagnosis of a serious illness through its progression
• Alert your own support system and let them know what would be helpful.
• Start experimenting with the idea that they won't always be alive.
• Contact important people and organizations in your parent’s life so you’ll be familiar with each other if needed.
• Follow up on paperwork that hasn’t yet been completed.

From diagnosis of a life-changing illness to their last breath
• Help you identify resources for people to help share the caregiving, if needed.
• Provide information about the choices your parent has for their final months and weeks, and coach you about talking with them about those choices.